Uses and Tips For Identifying Subtle Verbal Abuse In Your Life For family use, we suggest spouses use this card as a basis for discussion to help define what is mutually acceptable communication within the relationships. Parents can also use this card to discuss with their older children, what is appropriate communication. Those in the helping professions can use this for discussion purposes in training, seminars, group discussions, and it is an excellent support takeaway for workplace discussions about constructive relationships, and the respectful workplace. Deep discounts for the purchase of multiple copies make this an ideal purchase to share with managers, or learning group members.

Everyone uses Subtle Verbal Abuse, and is victimized by it.

True! You are subject to demeaning talk almost everyday, while at the same time exposing the people you care about to your own use of demeaning language. It's built in to the way we learn language as babies.

Babies learn to use language to manipulate and affect the people/environment around them so they survive. All of us learn to use language in that way, and continue to use some of the manipulative (and thus abusive) techniques into adulthood. It's just built in. And it's usually very subtle.

Pain and Loss -- The Cost

The pain of being on the receiving end is not always subtle. The damage is sometimes sub-conscious. It eats at our self-esteem, sense of being accepted, and over time, results in withdrawal from the relationship that include subtle verbal abuse.

This applies whether YOU are the victim, or whether you use subtle verbal abuse with those you care about and love (spouse, children).

First step to reducing subtle verbal abuse is awareness/consciousness.

The first step in reducing the subtle verbal abuse in your life (whether you send it or receive it) is to become aware of the subtle ways language is used to demean, attack, insinuate or trick others into giving in, or losing the argument.

As a sender, you can then self-monitor and stop yourself from using the sneaky and manipulative language. As a receiver you can begin to defend yourself.

Identifying Subtle Verbal Abuse In Your Life Helpcard - An Essential Tool

Our helpcard is an essential tool for understanding how language is used to hurt others in subtle ways. It covers:

• What comprises subtle verbal abuse
• The purpose of identifying subtle verbal abuse
• What you need to know (essentials)
• Common subtle verbal abuse techniques (Seventeen families of verbal abuse you need to stop using or defend against)
• Defending yourself

If you value your own mental health, and the quality of your relationships with those you care about, this is an essential tool to help you tackle an issue which is almost never discussed -- insidious subtle verbal abuse. Click here to get your copy.